Over the past few years I have really noticed a shift in song selections brides are making for their ceremony. Just as they want to make the reception unique to them as a couple, they are now more than ever wanting to personalize their ceremony to mean more to them. In the past I think brides felt obligated to go with the musician and church music that was provided. It was easy and inexpensive, so it seemed like the right decision. Now, more and more brides are choosing to have their ceremony at the reception site, making it easier for their guests, and often times finding another way to cut costs. As wedding traditions will continue to change I have to make sure that we as a company continue to change as well. I can guarantee that most of you who have attended a wedding have heard the traditional wedding march, which most of us girls dreamed of walking down the isle to. But boy, the times they are a changin’. Most of the brides that we work with really want a unique ceremony, something different, and something to remember. As I coach a lot of my brides to focus on the five main songs significant to their ceremony, I am often caught off guard at the song choices brides are wanting. By caught off guard, I simply mean, it is a song I never would have imagined for a wedding ceremony. But the truth is, it means something to our couples. And really that is all that matters. Our goal is to make sure our couples are excited about where there money is being spent and that they see the value in a live music. Sometimes I am nervous that I won’t be able to fill their request… but where there is a will there is a way.
For those of you who are not familiar with the process, I have three options. Number one, I can possibly recommend a musician who already knows your song(s). Now sometimes I am not that lucky depending on the request. But I can try and fall on to option number two which is finding the sheet music. If I am dealing with a bride who wants a classical musician, often times, getting the sheet music isn’t a problem. But sometimes the sheet music isn’t written for the correct instrument. Then that leads me to option number 3… getting it arranged. Thank goodness for talented musicians because there are people out there who can listen to a song and write the sheet music for me or take a particular arrangement and write it for a different instrument. Now all of this is more costly…. but honestly, it’s not that bad. Now I wish I could list an exact price for a brand new song, but it really depends on what is needed. The great part is that I can usually get a couple a quote and then they can decide if they would like to spend the additional money. Have I been able to please every bride? Unfortunately not. Sometimes it is impossible to find the sheet music and they select a song performed by an entire symphony and want that performed by a soloist. I understand that often times this is the first time our brides have hired live music and they need a little bit of help in understanding what is feasible with their budget. I am happy to work with them as well but after a little bit of explaining it makes a little more sense. There are also current artists, classical and top 40, who do not publish their sheet music and then again that can lead to complications.
So truly, no matter how you want to make your ceremony unique, music is the way to do it. Whether you are wanting “Back in Black” by ACDC performed by a violin/cello duo, the theme song from the video game Zelda on harp/violin, or the theme song to Jurassic Park as you walk down the isle, most things are possible. (and yes these are all songs requests we have filled) And it’s okay to be different. It’s okay to ask for something a little outside the box. We as professionals are here to help you. You never know what is possible and you never know what can be done until you ask.